“Is bad spending habit hereditary?”
I received this question from a forum member this morning while I was at the office. But I couldn’t answer right away so I just typed in the question on my cellphone and thought of just answering it when I get home.
Anyway, the truth is I was still reflecting about the right answers by doing a self-assessment of my previous and current spending habits.
I knew my parents were very frugal as far as I could remember but I still asked myself, “did I inherit any bad spending habit from my parents?”
How My Parents Struggled Financially
I was often sick when I was a child. Most of the time, my father’s savings/emergency fund would oftentimes go back to zero as they always had to send me to a doctor and buy expensive medicines in the process.
Couple that with my school fees and other needs that my parents found really difficult to sustain. So spending above our means was not in my parents vocabulary.
But the worst happened when my father lost his managerial job at the Philippine Ports Authority after the People Power Revolution. If only my father “went with the flow” and accepted bribes and “gifts” from their clients, we would not have struggled financially. But that never crossed my father’s mind at all.
While the rest of his officemates and staff drove cars and lived in big houses, my father just continued riding the jeepneys and tricycles and rented an apartment shared with other relatives.
He used his relatively small retirement pay to start a couple of businesses that both failed in the process. The first business (office furniture distribution) was a flop as his business partner just disappeared in thin air together with my father’s money. The second one was destroyed by a typhoon (a fishpen in Taal Lake).
So there really was no way my parents would have spent beyond our means because there was no money at all. We lived a very simple life. Very simple that our house was just the same size as a regular bedroom.
And because of this experience, we’ve learned to be content. Most of the times we would have one tuyo (or hawot in Batangas) each and one cup of steamed rice each per meal. Sometimes we had to settle for talbos ng kamote or malunggay for lunch or dinner.
We’ve Borrowed and Borrowed Money
Because we didn’t have a steady source of income and we had no more savings, my parents began to borrow money from relatives and friends to pay the bills. And this was the main reason why my mother had to leave the country and worked in Qatar for two “long” years. I was 10 years old and my younger brother was only 7 then.
While we learned how to take care of money we regularly received from our mother, it just wasn’t enough for our needs. My parents kept on borrowing and borrowing money for our needs because we lacked other sources of income. We borrowed until my father went really sick.
So even if i did not inherit any bad spending habit from my parents, it was poverty, lack of proper financial education, and the most difficult moments in life that eventually developed my small wallet mentality.
I inherited the utang culture.
Overcoming the Hereditary Curse
And although my parents lived frugally and taught us not to buy things (and food!) that were not necessary, I was always praying that we will be able to settle all our debts and be financially free again.
Debts can be addicting and destructive at the same time. You lose trust of the people who believed in you. You become a talk of the town for not paying money you owe to someone. People curse you for being in debt.
It wasn’t easy. In fact, I’m still looking for the people I owed money before to apologize for not being able to pay them back immediately. But I hope to meet up with them again soon and restore everything, our friendships the most.
Bad money behaviors can be hereditary. But you need not point fingers at your parents or put all the blame on them for the hardships in life. It’s all a matter of decision to appreciate your net worth and your true intrinsic value. Use your core gifts to generate money and become responsible financially. Learn from people who went through the same situation as yours but have become successful today.
See your problems as a whole. Mend your past lack of financial responsibility. Your financial freedom is up to you and nobody else.
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